Considering Divorce? Here’s What You Should Know
According to Webster’s dictionary, a divorce is defined as “a judicial declaration dissolving a marriage in whole or in part, especially one that releases the marriage partners from all matrimonial obligations”. That definition sounds very official and very black and white. However, as many people know more often than not, there is nothing that is black and white about divorce. While there certainly are such things as an amicable divorce, emotions usually get in the way of being able to think clearly as to what the best options are with divorce and then the heart can overshadow the mind’s common sense.
When most couples decide that their marriage is no longer working and they are ready for divorce, they do not realize the amount of items that need to be discussed and finalized during the divorce. The big topics are, of course, equitably distributing martial property, finances and children (if there are any). Those couples who have never been exposed to any kind of divorce procedures sometimes think that a divorce plays out just like they see on T.V.: they each hire an attorney, appear before a judge, and the judge decides exactly how everything will be divided. What they don’t realize is that there are many alternatives to letting a judge decide how your life will play out after the divorce.
Each spouse always has the option to try and negotiate the details of their divorce. Typically, it is always best to do this through the help of an attorney. While many couples think that they can do it on their own because they are on good terms, the risk of an issue becoming contentious is obviously high given the circumstances. If you are your soon-to-be ex are on good terms, that is all the more reason to hire an divorce attorney so they can work through the more detailed aspects of your divorce that could possibly cause an issue and put an end to any of those good terms. On the opposite end of the spectrum, if your divorce is anything but amicable and you and your spouse simply cannot stand to be alone in the same room together, then it becomes a necessity to hire a divorce attorney to handle any type of discussions.
When there are children involved, they obviously become the main focus for both parents. Although they may no longer care about each other, parents will want to assure that their children are harmed as little as possible in the process of divorce. Hiring an experienced divorce attorney allows both parties to take the outcome of their child’s future into their own hands and come to a mutual understanding of what is best for their children. Through the respective divorce attorneys, parents will be able to try to mediate when the child(ren) will see each parent, for how long and on what day and maybe even put to rest the topic of child support.
It is a fallacy to think that when a couple decides to get divorced that the outcome of that divorce is in the hands of a judge. When an experienced and skilled divorce attorney is used, it is very possible that nearly all of the issues surrounding a divorce can be handled long before both parties have to appear before a judge. The Law Offices of Lisa E. Halpern understands both the legal and the emotional side of divorce as well as the importance of trying to make this difficult transition as easy as possible. With her experience in family law, Ms. Halpern will be able to guide you to the best outcome while working with you through the stress that divorce can bring. Please call our office at (732) 244-7719 to discuss more about this difficult change in your life.